|
Table of Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Part I: The Sexualities
of Women
Chapter 1: Our Sexual
Selves
- Sexuality Is More
Than Sex
Part II: Development:
The Path to Sexual Womanhood
Chapter 2: Sexual Discoveries:
Childhood and Beyond
-
Self-Discovery
in Childhood
-
First
Experiences of Self-Stimulation and Orgasm
-
Critical
Periods for Orgasmic Responsiveness
-
Self-Stimulation
and Orgasm in the Teen Years
-
Finding
Our Way in the Teen Years
-
Acquiring
Language
-
Changing
Sexual Mores
-
Women
Who First Masturbated After the Age of Seventy
-
Sexuality:
A Lifelong Work in Progress
Chapter 3: Thinking About
Sex: Attitudes and Values
- Your Sexual Heritage
- The Primary Roles
of Parents
- Themes for the
21st Century
- What Would
You Want Your Daughter to Know About Sex?
- What Would
You Want Your Son to Know About Sex?
- Parents Really
Can't Win
- Having Different
Values Than Your Parents
- Finding Our
Own Way
- Most Parents
Really Do Care
Chapter 4: Love, Sexuality,
and Sexual Boundaries
- Nurturing Fathers
- Violative Fathers
- An Unprotective
Mother
- Sexual Abuse
- Brothers and Cousins:
From Curiosity to Coercion
- The Edge
- Brother Abuse
- The Wounded Sexual
Self
Chapter 5: The First
Time
- Getting Ready
- The Preteen
Years--Figuring It Out
- How Do You
"Do It"?
- Decoding the
Dance of Courtship
- Learning "Sexual"
Skills Through Play
- Curiosity About
Penises
- Who Will It Be?
The Dimension of Romantic Attachment
- Crushes
- Almost Dating
- The Dance of Courtship:
Intermediate Steps
- Dating
- Coming of Age
- Oral-Genital Sex
- Out at the Edge
- Alcohol and
the Edge
- Danger Zone: High
School Girl-Women and Older Boy-Men
- When, Where, and
with Whom?
- First Times
in the Early Twentieth Century
- Technical
Virgins--Everything-but-Intercourse Sex
- Trust, Feeling
Safe, and Fear of Pregnancy
- Marriage:
the Next Step
- Bridging Two Eras
- For Women
Born at Mid-Century: A New Trend
- Coming of Age
During the Sexual Revolution
- It's What
You Do in College
- Being in Love
Replaces Marriage
- Age of First Intercourse
- It's What
You Do in High School
- Women Attracted
to Women
- Finding Our
Way--We Learned How--and It Got Good
- Which Comes
First, a Relationship or SEx?
- Rite of Passage
- Young Women in
the 1990s
- Getting It
Over With: Alcohol, and Doing It for Him
- The TV Generation
- First-Time Experiences
Without Consent
- Another Look
at a Danger Zone: High School Girls and Older Boys
- Healing First
Times for Women Who Were Sexually Abused
Part III: Sexual Partners:
Licit and Illicit
Chapter 6: Partners and
Contexts
- Living Arrangements
- Sex Outside the
Safety and Structure of Commitment
- Casual Sex:
Commitment Only to the Here and Now
- Self-Acceptance
- Finding Our
Way
- Once-Again-Single
- Further Thoughts
on Love and Connection
Chapter 7: Consensual
Nonmonogamy and Affairs
- Consensual Nonmonogamy
- Jealousy in
Open Relationships
- Affairs
- Why Do Women Have
Affairs?
- Attraction
Outward Meets Dissatisfaction Within
- Trying to
Get Pregnant
- Other Reasons
- Affair-Prone Women
- Decision Making:
Thinking About Having Affairs
- Reasons for Not
Having an Affair
- Would You Have
an Affair in the Future?
Part IV: Erotic Pleasure
Chapter 8: Solo Eroticism:
Masturbation and Fantasy
- How Many in the
Survey Recently Masturbated?
- Vibrators
- Why Do Women Masturbate?
- Orgasms in Masturbation
- Masturbation Fantasies
- Using Erotica
Chapter 9: Sexual Satisfaction
and Partnered Sex
- Satisfying Sex
and Associated Feelings
- Satisfying Sex
in Ongoing Relationships
- Closeness,
Love, Acceptance, and Safety
- Satisfying Sex
in Not-So-Satisfying Relationships
- Sexual Activity
and Alcohol and Drugs
- Arguing Before
Sex
- Orgasm
- Age and Sexual
Satisfaction in an Ongoing Relationship
- Orientation and
Sexual Satisfaction
- Satisfaction with
Frequency and Quality of Various Touching Activities
- Satisfaction with
Total Amount of Sexual Activity
- Sexual Affirmation
and Sexual Satisfaction
Chapter 10: One Hundred+
Years of Women's Orgasms
- Sexual Goals--Defining
Sexual Success as Orgasm
- Clitoral and
Vaginal Orgasms
- Manufacturing
Orgasms
- Women Who
Have Vaginal and Simultaneous Orgasms
- Women Who
Don't Fit the Orgasmic Fashions of Their Times
- A Liberating New
Definition
- More History
- The Clitoris,
Sexual Arousal, and Internal Sensations
- Penis Size
- The G Spot and
Female Ejaculation
- Still More History
- Faking Orgasm
- Why Women
Fake Orgasms
Chapter 11: The Infinite
Variety of Women's Orgasms
- The Experience
of Orgasm
- How Women
Experience Orgasm
- Variety in
Orgasmic Experience
- Variety in
Pathways to Orgasm
- Crying and
Laughing with Orgasm
- Multiple Orgasms
- Factors That
Facilitate Multiple Orgasms
- Orgasms from Nongenital
Stimulation
- Orgasms Without
Any Physical Stimulation
- Dream Orgasms
- Waking Orgasms
Without Physical Stimulation
- Simultaneous Orgasms
- Facilitating Orgasm
- How to Increase
Erotic Pleasure and Enhance Your Orgasms
- Focus of Attention
- Shift Your
Attention from Performance to Pleasure
- The Setting
and Other Sensory Enhancements
- Communication
and Interaction with Your Partner
- Women Who Are
Not Experiencing Orgasm
- Imagery for
Learning to Become Orgasmic
Chapter 12: Sexual Concerns
and Problems of American Women
- What Actually
Happens When Real People Have Sex?
- Most Important
Sexual Concerns and Problems in the Past Year
- Issues of
Desire and Frequency: The American Way of Life?
- Too Tired/Too
Busy
- Lower
Sexual Desire Than I Wanted to Have
- Sexual
Interest
- Sexual
Arousability
- A Sexual
Detective Considers Low Sexual Desire
- Desire
Discrepancy
- Problems Related
to Physical Responsiveness
- The Big
Six
- A Male
Partner's Difficulties with Arousal and Erections
- Her Partner
Ejaculating Too Quickly
- Retarded
or Absent Ejaculation
- Antidepressants
and Sexual Responsiveness
- Other Aspects
of Women's Physical Responsiveness
- Vaginal Pain
- Lovemaking Problems
and Concerns
- Finding a Partner
- Other Relationship
Issues
- Fertility and
Reproduction
- The Reproductive
Dimension of Sexuality
- Sex and Menstrual
Cycling
- Fertility
- Becoming Pregnant
- Pregnancies
of the Survey Respondents
- Having a New
Baby
- STDs/Safe Sex
- Body and Health
Issues
- Menopause
- Other Body/Health
Problems and Concerns
- Sexual Orientation
Chapter 13: Sexual Choreography:
Creating Pleasure in Partnered Sex
- The Experience
of Erotic Pleasure
- Creating Erotic
Pleasure
- Transitions
- Building Arousal
Through Simmering and Teasing
- Knowing We
Can Take as Much Time as We Need
- Sexual Arousal
- Erotic Stimulation:
Creating a Composition of Sensations
- Transition,
Physical Responsiveness, and Satisfaction
- Take Care
of Details
- When Partners
Have Different Sexual Styles
- Sensual Styles
- Fantasy During
Lovemaking
- Low-Key Fantasies
- Fantasy Themes
- Sexual
Role Enactment
- Intimate
Trance
- The Loving
Relationship
- Sex Outdoors
- Fantasy in
Lieu of Involvement
- When Partners
Have Different Images and Expectations
- Invitations and
Sexual Initiation
- Saying "No"
to Sex
- Consequences
of Just Going Along
- Consenting
to Be Intimate: Effective Sexual Negotiation
- A Sexual Detective
Considers Nonverbal Responses
- All You Need to
Start Is Interest
- Put a Structure
Around Your Spontaneity
- Rituals for Relationship
Maintenance and Enhancement
- Weeknight Sex
Chapter 14: Sexual Self-Acceptance
- Your Sexual Self
- Self-Acceptance
- Emotional Blocks to
Self-Acceptance
- Regrets
- Forgiveness
- Understanding
- Body Image Blocks
to Self-Acceptance
- Another Look at What
We Want Our Daughters to Know
- Sexual Self-Acceptance
- Some Teachings
of Richard Olney
References
Resources
SEXSA Circles
- Questions
for facilitating SEXSA Circle discussions
(There
are questions here for the topics in each chapter.)
|
